Breastfeeding is a natural and powerful way for mothers to bond with their babies and provide them with essential nutrients, but it is not always possible for every mother to continue breastfeeding for the entire recommended time. For mothers whose breastfeeding journeys have ended early, it can be a difficult and emotional experience.

I gave breastfeeding my all for a solid 3 weeks until I called it quits. I beat myself up about it for quite some time, thinking about all the coulda, shoulda, woulda’s. Hindsight is 20/20, as they say, and if I could go back and tell myself anything it’s this: Mama, it’s okay. You are enough. Not everyone has the ability, or desire, to breastfeed. It’s okay to accept yourself where you are.

Here are a few ways you can support a mama that is struggling through a difficult breastfeeding journey:

First and foremost, it is important to validate the mother's feelings. Stopping breastfeeding can be a deeply emotional experience, and it is common for mothers to feel a sense of loss, disappointment, and even failure. Let her know that her feelings are valid and that it is okay for her to grieve the end of her breastfeeding journey.

Another important way to support a mother whose breastfeeding journey has ended early is to provide her with information and resources. If the mother is feeling overwhelmed or unsure of how to proceed, provide her with information about alternative feeding options and resources that can help her to make informed decisions. This can include things like information about formula feeding, bottle-feeding techniques, and the importance of proper nutrition for both the mother and the baby. If she really isn’t ready to call it quits, refer her to a lactation consultant! They are wonderful medical professionals that can help with breastfeeding issues.

In addition to providing information and resources, it is also important to offer practical support to the mother. This can include things like helping her to prepare bottles and formula, offering to hold the baby while she takes a break, or providing her with emotional support and encouragement. It can also be helpful to offer to run errands or provide other forms of practical support to make the transition to alternative feeding methods easier for the mother.

Finally, it is important to remember that every mother's breastfeeding journey is unique, and what may have worked for one mother may not work for another. Be understanding and supportive of the mother's decision, and avoid making judgments or comparisons. Don’t tell her: Well, this is what worked for me…. Instead, focus on providing the mother with the support and encouragement that she needs to navigate this difficult time.

Supporting a mother whose breastfeeding journey has ended early is a crucial and important role. We too often forget that sometimes Mamas need mothering, too. Remember to be understanding and non-judgmental, and to focus on providing the mother with the support and encouragement that she needs.