As women, we are often bombarded with messages about what it means to be a "good" mother. We are told that we need to be selfless, and patient, and always put our children's needs above our own. We are expected to sacrifice our own desires and dreams in order to fulfill our roles as mothers.
But the truth is, there is no one-size-fits-all definition of what it means to be a good mother. Every woman's experience of motherhood is unique, and the way that we choose to parent our children should be based on our own values and beliefs and not on societal expectations or standards.
So how can we honor the mothers that we are, rather than trying to conform to an impossible ideal? Try these things:
Accept yourself: One of the most important things that you can do to honor the mother that you are is to accept yourself for who you are - flaws and all. No one is perfect, and it is okay to make mistakes and have doubts. Be kind and compassionate with yourself, and remember that you are doing the best that you can with the circumstances.
Trust yourself: As mothers, we often second-guess ourselves and seek validation from others. But the truth is that you are the expert on your own child and your own parenting style. Trust yourself and your instincts! Don't be afraid to make decisions that are best for your family, even if they are not popular or conventional.
Prioritize self-care: As mothers, we often put our own needs last, but it is important to prioritize self-care in order to take care of ourselves and our families. This can include simple things such as: getting enough sleep, eating well, exercising, and taking time for ourselves. Remember that taking care of yourself is not selfish, it is essential.
Embrace your own motherhood journey: Every mother's journey is different, and it is important to embrace the unique experiences and challenges that come with being a mother. Don't compare yourself to other mothers or try to fit into a mold. Instead, celebrate your own journey and the lessons that you have learned along the way.
Let go of guilt: Guilt is a common emotion for mothers, but it is important to let go of the guilt and shame and focus on the present moment. It is okay to make mistakes and to have moments of doubt. Let go of the guilt and move forward, focusing on the love and connection that you share with your child.
Seek support: As mothers, we often try to go it alone, but it is important to seek support from others. This can include things like asking for help from your partner, seeking advice from other mothers, or seeking professional help if you are struggling. Remember that you are not alone and that it is okay to ask for help.
Honoring the mother that you are means accepting and trusting yourself, prioritizing self-care, embracing your own journey, letting go of the guilt, and seeking support. It means recognizing that there is no one-size-fits-all definition of what it means to be a good mother! The most important thing is to be true to yourself and your own values and beliefs.
By honoring the mother that you already are, you can be the best mother that you can be for your child.
You’re doing a great job, Mama.