Mom guilt is a common feeling among mothers, especially those who are trying to balance their roles as mothers and their other responsibilities and pursuits. Mom guilt often arises when mothers feel like they are not doing enough for their children or that they are not living up to societal expectations of motherhood. This guilt can be compounded by judgment from others, whether it be from family members, friends, or strangers.

One way to deal with mom guilt and judgment from others is to remind yourself that no one is a perfect parent and that it is impossible to meet the impossible standards of perfection that society often sets for mothers. It is important to focus on being the best parent that you can be, given your individual circumstances and priorities. This may mean making different choices than other mothers, and that is okay. Only you know what’s best for your family and you need to honor that.

Another way to cope with mom guilt and judgment from others is to practice self-compassion. Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend. Remember that you are doing the best you can and that you are not alone in feeling overwhelmed or unsure at times. Honestly, I’ve never met a mom who doesn’t deal with conflicting emotions and reactions revolving around mom guilt and judgment. It can also be helpful to talk to other mothers who may be going through similar experiences, as this can provide a sense of support and validation. While we all live drastically different lives, support can be found in community.

Additionally, setting boundaries with others can be an effective way to deal with mom guilt and judgment. This may mean setting boundaries with your own expectations of yourself, as well as boundaries with others who may be critical or judgmental. It is okay to let others know that their opinions do not define your worth as a mother, and that you are doing what is best for your family. Remember: You do not have to parent like your own mother or mother-in-law in order to be a good mom.

Ultimately, it is important to remember that motherhood is a journey and that it will have its ups and downs. It is okay to make mistakes and to ask for help when needed. By practicing self-compassion, setting boundaries, and focusing on being the best parent that you can be, you can navigate the challenges of mom guilt and judgment from others.

If you’re feeling alone in your motherhood journey, send me an email! I’d love to tell you about the upcoming Mama Yoga classes that can connect you with other mamas on a similar journey.